Monthly Archives: July 2010

Decision on Kenneth S. Ansin vs. Cheryl A. Craven-Ansin

This just in… the slip opinion for Ansin v. Craven-Ansin. Worcester. April 5, 2010. – July 16, 2010. Present: Marshall, C.J., Ireland, Spina, Cowin, Cordy, Botsford, & Gants, JJ. Husband and Wife, Marital agreement. Contract, Marital agreement. Divorce and Separation, … Continue reading

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Don’t Take Your Spouse for Granted

Mark Suster is a well-known technology blogger, entrepreneur, and venture capitalist. On the occasion of his wedding anniversal, he departed from his usual tech startup advice to talk about his marriage. When I was in my early 20′s I was … Continue reading

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Functional and Dysfunctional Marriage

I always cry at weddings. It’s not because I think the wedding is so beautiful or the newlyweds are so adorable. It’s because I know (and they don’t) how difficult marriage will be for them. You will see tears on … Continue reading

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How to Succeed in Marriage

As a divorce lawyer and mediator, my job is to sort through the wreckage of a marriage to help clients find a post-marriage equilibrium of safety, fairness, and a modicum of peace. I read the signs of the breakdown like … Continue reading

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Practical advice for your marriage from a divorce attorney

As a practicing divorce attorney and divorce mediator, I’ve met a number of couples that, if they had been given some good advice (and had remembered that advice) a few years or even months earlier, they would not be divorcing. … Continue reading

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The Art of Powerful Non-Defensive Communication

Intrigued by the title of the workshop and feeling that I needed to work on my skills in managing effective communication, I came to the Toronto IACP conference early to take the all-day Pre-Forum workshop on “Powerful Non-Defensive Communication” (“PNDC”), … Continue reading

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The American Law Institute (ALI) on postnuptial agreements

The American Law Institute (ALI) in its Principles of the Law of Family Dissolution (2002) has written standards applicable to postnuptial agreements, i.e., agreements made during a marriage where divorce is not imminent. These principles have been incorporated (or rejected) … Continue reading

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Finding a marital mediator

In choosing a marital mediator, the background and experience of a mediator, the geographical location, the mediator’s hourly rate, and the experience of the marital mediator are all important considerations. There is also the intangible personal “fit” between mediator and … Continue reading

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Marital mediation or marital counseling

Many people ask the question, “How is a marital mediation different from a marital counseling?” and  “Can a marital mediator help us if we were unable to be helped by marital therapy?”  Yes, there is a distinct difference between marital … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Last

We just came across a great article on improving marriage by the (AAML) American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. You can read the whole article here. They conclude the article with these 12 ways to improve your marriage: Treat your spouse … Continue reading

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Taking the War Out of Our Words by Sharon Ellison

This is a great book if you want to learn how not to jump to conclusions (which are often wrong) during your daily life, whether at work or home. A careful reading of Taking the War Out of Our Words … Continue reading

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The Relationship Handbook: A Simple Guide to Satisfying Relationships by George Pransky

This book, formerly published under the title “Divorce is Not the Answer”, is a simple, well thought-out and organized little book containing chapters on topics such as “A Fresh Start” and “Compatibility is Only a Thought Away”. Pransky is a … Continue reading

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A Definition of Marital Mediation

There is a veil of silence that surrounds every married couple. Spouses express loyalty by not complaining about their partner or their marriage. People feel ashamed if other people know there are problems in their marriage. People often feel that … Continue reading

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Deciding whether to divorce or continue your marriage

  One of the most interesting and fulfilling parts of my law practice is to assist people who are contemplating divorce or in the midst of divorcing. I consider this work in helping people though a very significant transition in … Continue reading

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Case Study: Job loss and marital mediation

Bill and Sally have been married 15 years. They have two children, Kristin 9 and Rob 6. Bill has worked since college at one job in the pharmaceutical industry. He has earned enough so that Sally has been able to … Continue reading

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Stanley R. Fogg v. Geraldine Fogg – Postnuptial Agreement

Fogg v. Fogg, 409 Mass. 531 (1991), is a postnuptial agreement enforceability case, in which the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court (SJC) denied enforcement of the agreement. It was a second marriage for both, and each had children from previous marriages. … Continue reading

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Ansin v. Craven-Ansin, A Massachusetts Postnuptial

Ansin v. Craven-Ansin is an important recent case in Massachusetts. The issue is the validity of the postnuptial agreement and whether it may be specifically enforced. See Fogg v. Fogg, 409 Mass. 531, 536 (1991). The Massachusetts Supreme Court recent … Continue reading

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Burkle v. Burkle

Burkle v. Burkle was a 2006 California case in which the enforcement of a postnuptial agreement was contested by the wife at the time of divorce (Janet E. Burkle v. Ronald W. Burkle, 139 Cal.App4th 712 2006). In Burkle, a … Continue reading

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Case Study: Postnuptial agreement for second marriage

Judith and William are in their 60s. It is a second marriage for both, and they each have children from their prior marriages. Judith, a widow, accumulated some wealth from her deceased husband. William’s financial circumstances are more modest. They … Continue reading

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The Four Seasons of Marriage by Gary Chapman

Gary Chapman, author of the longstanding megaseller The Five Love Languages, uses his years of marriage counseling and leading marriage seminars as the basis for his thesis that marriages repeatedly go through periods that can be characterized by the seasons … Continue reading

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