Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family

collaborative-divorceAbout half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce, and most of these divorces result in unnecessary collateral damage. Now there is a better way.

In Collaborative Divorce, Pauline Tesler and Peggy Thompson, two pioneers in the field who train collaborative professionals around the world, present the first complete, step-by-step explanation of the groundbreaking method that is revolutionizing the way couples end their marriages. Working with a team of caring specialists that includes two lawyers, two coaches, a financial consultant, and a child specialist (if necessary), you and your spouse focus on building a consensus that addresses the needs of everyone who will be directly affected by the divorce. This exciting new paradigm empowers you—not lawyers or a judge—to shape the outcome of your divorce. Collaborative Divorce is essential reading that will inspire you to approach divorce as a vehicle for conflict resolution, healing, and positive, long-term change.

“The end of a marriage is both common and, for many, emotionally devastating. In this brave and visionary work, Tesler and Thompson do the nearly unthinkable: they chart the path to a humane and compassionate divorce. In so doing, they reveal that much of divorce’s destructive power is not intrinsic, but comes instead from the adversarial system in which we’ve all been schooled. Change the system, as they describe in clear and convincing terms, and the pain of divorce can be drastically reduced. Collaborative Divorce is one of the rare books with a vital lesson, powerfully taught, that will make the world a better place.”
–Thomas Lewis, M.D., assistant clinical professor, University of California, School of Medicine, and author, A General Theory of Love

Pauline Tesler, M.A., J.D., has been a specialist in family law certified by California State Bar Board of Legal Specialization since 1985. She is a fellow of the America Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers and she lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband. For more information, please visit

Peggy Thompson, Ph.D., has been a licensed psychologist specializing in families and children for thirty years. For the past fifteen years, she has been actively involved in the development and practice of collaborative divorce. Peggy lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband. For more information, please visit

Read more about Pauline and Peggy at their website.

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