Author Archives: Laurie Israel

7 Phrases Every Healthy Couple Should Feel Comfortable Saying

Words matter.  Back in the late 1960s, a Canadian philosopher named Marshall McLuan  coined an expression, “the medium is the message,” that struck a chord. The phrase went around the world.   In a marriage or committed relationship, words are the … Continue reading

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Underwood Family Values – A Template for a Marriage

by Laurie Israel I’m a late adopter. While the Netflix-produced political drama “House of Cards”  premiered back in February of 2013, and four seasons (totaling 52 episodes) have already aired, with a fifth season in the works, I only started … Continue reading

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Where Does Marital Mediation Fit In?

As published in the Futures Project of Mediate.com on March 2, 2015.  Abstract: Mediation has been categorized into three types:  facilitative, evaluative and transformative.  In this article, Laurie Israel discusses which category marital mediation falls into.  She concludes that it has … Continue reading

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Is Mediating Prenups a form of Marital Mediation?

My mediation practice during the past several years has taken a turn towards mediating prenuptial agreements.  Here’s how it happened: At times being the “other” attorney reviewing the agreement sent by the lawyer of the more moneyed spouse-to-be, I noticed … Continue reading

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Use of Marital Waivers in Marital Mediation

ddddddd As published in The Huffington Post, April, 2014. All married people struggle with disputes that arise in a long-term committed relationship. What to do about the predictable and ever-repeating disagreements and mutual criticisms that come up from time to … Continue reading

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Driving your spouse crazy – literally

Driving your spouse crazy – literally. Download as pdf

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How is marital mediation different from marital counseling?

How is marital mediation different from marital counseling? Download as pdf

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Marital mediation – a new application of mediation

Marital mediation – a new application of mediation. Download as pdf

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Mediator as Truthsayer

Mediation is not one monolithic technique.  Mediators and mediation theorists may categorize different types of mediation techniques into different theoretical boxes, such as “facilitative”, “evaluative” and “transformational”.  But the categories all seem to bleed into each other.  At its core, … Continue reading

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Will You Still Love Me When I’m 164?

Times Magazine just published an article on the new old age.  How might marriage change if humans could live 150 years, which scientists now believe is possible.   Will people have several successive spouses?  Family therapist Winifred M. Reilly ponders this … Continue reading

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Eliminating “Hot Speech” in Marriage

As published on The Huffington Post, Divorce section, September 10, 2013.  We live in a very fast world. Information is shared instantly.  A public figure might do something at 9 a.m., and by 9:15 a.m. it’s all over the Twitterscape … Continue reading

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Elizabeth Weil’s book details marriage improvement efforts

  A book, “No Cheating, No Dying: I had a Good Marriage. Then I tried to Make it Better”,  resulted from Elizabeth Weil and her husband, Dan Duane’s work on their marriage, after a full-length article about her seeking for … Continue reading

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Infidelity: An Opportunity for Marital Truthfulness

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Driving your Spouse Crazy

Here’s a Huffington Post article on typical conflicts that come up when you’re driving with your spouse, what they mean, and what to do about it. Here’s a link to the the powerpoint:  Driving your Spouse Crazy.  

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Maybe Arranged Marriages are Good

Modern Lessons from Arranged Marriages, a recent New York Times article, weighs in on arranged marriage, and concludes that parental involvement may be very helpful to choosing a spouse. Robert Epstein, Ph.D., a research psychologist at the American Institute for Behavior … Continue reading

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Infidelity in marriage — what does “Hedonic Adaptation” have to do with it?

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Powerful Non-Defensive Communication: A New Way to Communicate

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Marital Agreements as an Estate Planning Tool

A number of unique challenges arise when balancing the inheritances of a spouse, children from different relationships, and stepchildren. Unfortunately, the difficulties can continue after death, as lawsuits involving challenges to estate documents are more common in blended families than … Continue reading

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Practical advice for your marriage from a divorce attorney

As a practicing divorce attorney and divorce mediator, I’ve met a number of couples that, if they had been given some good advice (and had remembered that advice) a few years or even months earlier, they would not be divorcing. … Continue reading

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Deciding whether to divorce or continue your marriage

  One of the most interesting and fulfilling parts of my law practice is to assist people who are contemplating divorce or in the midst of divorcing. I consider this work in helping people though a very significant transition in … Continue reading

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